Wednesday, March 13, 2019

One Disappointment After Another

My RE and I have had a conflict regarding MRI or letter from oncologist due to my breast cancer.  My insurance won't cover and MRI if there is no reason, which there is not.  I have no issues and no lumps or bumps.
So we have consulted 3 more IVF clinics.  All three have told me it would be a waste of money to harvest me and just to go to the donor.  This makes me feel like a failure and horrible.  I think I would always hate myself if I didn't try harvesting myself one more time before going a donor.  We always said we would try 3 times; but does that third time skip me and go right to donor.
I am do sad and crying today.  We consulted OKC, CCRM in Colorado, and St Louis.  My clinic is the only one willing to harvest me (the other clinics think they just want to take our money).  CCRM just wants us to do donor and gestational carrier, because they don't think I could get preggo again.
The thing is choosing the donor.  We don't really care for any of the avail donors at our clinic, but we have 3 we would choose from.  This decision is really hard.
Then, do we harvest the donor and me at the same time?  What happens if we get tons of embryos?  Does the clinic keep my embryos separate from the donor embryos so if they come back genetically normal, we can choose whose to transfer?
I just want to cry.  3 out of 4 physicians are telling me it's a waist of money to harvest me again.  I really am torn. I just really feel I will regret not trying me again, especially since my numbers increased.  My AMH was .74 which is good according to the docs; not great, but good.
So now we decide.  Do we change clinics after my meeting with our current RE (since she requires an appointment and won't call anyone back - even an physician), or do we just stick with what we know?
I feel like shite and can't stop crying.